You tell people what you think. You explain how you feel. You build stories around the way you think you should be.
Then there's the unconscious. It's so easy to fog out your real self with stories and ego.
The more you explain, the less you remember about how you really feel. The more you talk about it, the less real the feelings become. The more you describe it, the less you can remember how you came to those conclusions in the first place.
That's when you need to hit the reset button. Step back. Stop thinking. Let your head speak to you.